Discover How Today's Valentine's Day Traditions Originated Behind Bars

We tend to celebrate Valentine's Day with romantic greeting cards and candy. But the history of this day—and the source of some of our traditions—is a lot more somber. In fact, Valentine's Day has connections to prison.
ST. VALENTINE, ROMAN PRISONER
We don't know much about St. Valentine. However, various legends associated with him reveal a person who had a lot of experience with the third century Roman Empire's criminal justice system.
According to one legend, St. Valentine was persecuted for his faith and placed under arrest. A judge—or in some versions, his jailor—decided to test the saint's faith by commanding Valentine to heal his blind daughter. St. Valentine did so, and when the judge saw that his daughter was no longer blind, he immediately converted to Christianity. He also reportedly freed the other Christian prisoners in his jurisdiction.
Other legends state that Valentine continued to evangelize even after his incarceration. He reportedly officiated marriage ceremonies for Christian couples. He also assisted Christians who fled Roman persecution.
All the stories agree: St. Valentine was unwavering his faith and devotion to Jesus Christ. He was executed on February 14 sometime around the year 270 A.D.
It is said that the day he died, he left behind a note for a friend signed, "Your Valentine."
Me from you for the whole year …
My very gentle Valentine.'
A PRISON VALENTINE POEM
Originally a feast day for St. Valentine, February 14 soon became associated with romantic love some time in the Middle Ages. The first mention of February 14 as the holiday we know today was in a poem by English Poet Geoffrey Chaucer. It was during this era that the world's oldest surviving Valentine poem was composed.
In 1415, Charles, Duke of Orleans, a nephew of Charles VI of France and a member of French royalty, was wounded in the Battle of Agincourt. He was captured by the English and imprisoned for 24 years.
During his incarceration, Charles wrote poetry. One of these poems was "A Farewell to Love," a valentine to his wife that was penned during his time in the Tower of London:
I am already sick of love,
My very gentle Valentine,
Since for me you were born too late,
And I for you was born too soon.
God forgives him who has estranged
Me from you for the whole year.
I am already sick of love,
My very gentle Valentine.Well might I have suspected
That such a destiny,
Thus would have happened this day,
How much that Love would have commanded.
I am already sick of love,
My very gentle Valentine.
REMEMBER THOSE IN PRISON … AND THEIR LOVED ONES
Regardless of what century we're in, incarceration can have a devastating effect on families and loved ones. When permissible, it is important for prisoners to maintain relationships with their families on the outside. Prisoners who can stay connected to spouses, children, and friends are more likely to successfully return to society once their sentences end.
That's why family ministry is such a vital area churches can serve. Prison Fellowship® offers churches the chance to make a difference in the lives of prisoners' families through our year-round Angel Tree® program. We also provide resources offering tips and advice for churches looking to fulfill specific needs in their local communities.
Meanwhile, small businesses have stepped up to help. Marcus Bullock, a former prisoner, started Flikshop after his own experience trying to stay in touch with his family during his incarceration. Flikshop is an app that allows families to send photos from your phone to an incarcerated loved one. Through businesses like these, families can find more affordable ways to share milestones and other precious moments with those behind bars.
MAKE A DIFFERENCE TODAY
Check out Prison Fellowship's resources for family ministry and see how you can impact a family's life today.
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