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TOGETHER ON PURPOSE, FOR A PURPOSE
Anthony and Monica fell in love twice—first with each other and then with Jesus.
By Lou Haviland
When Anthony and Monica share their testimonies in prisons, there is one detail they make sure to mention: Both grew up in the housing projects on Buckeye Road—an area many of their listeners know well. Inevitably, residents in the prisons shout back, “Yeah, Buckeye bandits!”
Although Anthony and Monica grew up in close proximity, they would not meet until a cousin of Anthony’s introduced them in their 20s. In the meantime, they had their own journeys to undergo before they met.
How would God go on to use them for His glory on Buckeye Road and beyond?
HIDDEN IN PLAIN SIGHT
Monica met her father only once in her life. Her mother went to prison when Monica was still a teenager. Monica and her nine siblings then moved in with her grandmother, but they were warned that space was tight, and there wouldn’t be room for anyone else. Then, at 16, Monica got pregnant.
“I actually hid my pregnancy for a whole six months, and I didn’t know what to do,” Monica recalls.
Determined not to burden her grandmother with another mouth to feed, Monica looked for a homeless shelter to stay in with her coming baby. She finally found one she liked and put her name on the waiting list. When a space opened up, a shelter employee called to offer it to her. Since Monica was a minor, however, she would need an adult to provide consent for her and her baby.
“I put the phone down, and I told [my grandmother],” Monica says. “I had to tell her I was pregnant right there while I had the phone down.”
Monica ended up living in the homeless shelter until she turned 18. At the shelter, Monica learned practical tools such as financial budgeting and parenting skills. She left the home motivated to provide for herself and her daughter. Monica’s mother, father, and stepfather had all been incarcerated; this was her chance to start a new legacy for her daughter.
“For me that was such a blessing because it took me away from the lifestyle that my family all lived,” she says.
Although living with her newborn in a homeless shelter was not what Monica would have initially chosen, she is thankful for the role it played in breaking the cycle of poverty, abuse, and incarceration in her family. Even more importantly, she had come to know Christ during her pregnancy. While watching a pastor preach the Good News on a Christian television station, she grabbed her Bible and knew God was speaking through His Word to her.
When her mother was incarcerated, she signed up Monica for a gift in her name from Prison Fellowship® Angel Tree. It made an enormous impact on Monica.
“We didn’t really get any kind of emotion or any kind of love from my mom,” Monica recalls. “What I remember is when I got the Angel Tree present and then she found out I was pregnant, she also got my daughter a gift from Angel Tree. That was so much because she was actually thinking about us.”
PAINFUL ROOTS
Anthony’s father wasn’t present in his life, but his impact on the family was devastating.
“The only time we were really safe was when my dad was in prison,” Anthony says. “He tried to hurt my family several times.”
Anthony’s father was eventually incarcerated and remained in prison for a total of 28 years. But later, his stepfather also proved to be abusive toward him and his sisters. Abuse, crime, and prison were common features in his immediate and extended family.
“So those are our role models,” Anthony notes. “God has really guided us away from that direction.”
What deeply impacted Anthony and Monica in their separate journeys was having someone come along to help them know there was another way to live.
FIRST DATE
The couple has been together 20 years but still vividly remembers the first time they met on a blind date.
“I thought she was beautiful,” Anthony says. “I totally just fell in love with her.”
“The biggest thing was our friendship,” Monica says. “We talked. It was just all talking. Our first time on a movie date, we couldn’t even stay because we were talking so much. We walked around and just talked.”
They continued to date for many years, but Monica eventually grew frustrated with Anthony’s lack of interest in anything having to do with faith or church.
As for Anthony at that time, he was pursuing a career as a secular rap artist, and his interests were directly opposed to Monica’s. After 10 years together, they made the decision to separate.
“I was already saved,” she says. “I was going to church, but not really applying everything until we separated for about six months. That’s when I was like, ‘OK, I’m in love with God. Jesus, that’s it. Just You and me and my kids.’ I really dug in and was on fire.”
Before their separation, Monica had given Anthony an ultimatum: If he wanted their relationship to work, he would have to start attending church and participate in counseling with a pastor.
Monica had given Anthony an ultimatum: He would have to start attending church and participate in counseling with a pastor.
ANOTHER MAN
Once their breakup had gone on for several months, Anthony wanted to get back together. Monica, however, was adamant that the relationship was over.
“She told me she found someone new,” Anthony recalls. “I said, ‘Who is this dude? Tell me who he is. I’m ready to go fight.’ She says, ‘Oh, I’m in love with Jesus.’ I couldn’t compete with that.”
“We would [go to] church,” he recalls of their time apart. “I would sit in the back, she’d sit in the front, and I’d be staring at the back of her head.”
At first, Anthony refused to attend counseling, despite Monica’s ultimatum. While she still did not want to take Anthony back, she gave him one more chance to meet with a pastor at the church.
When the day of the meeting came around, Monica did not show up since Anthony had not attended previous meetings she had arranged with her pastor. This time, she decided to allow him to speak with the pastor on his own. It was an emotional meeting that changed Anthony’s life.
The pastor confronted Anthony, telling him, “You let [Christ] in your heart right now and let Him work on your relationship.” Anthony knew what the pastor was telling him.
“I knew he was talking about my relationship with Jesus. I was on the ground crying, and that’s when I got saved,” Anthony says.
Following his declaration of faith, Anthony and Monica got back together and were married. Soon, they would follow God where He was leading them.
ANSWERING THE CALL
The couple continued attending Church for the Nations in Phoenix together. Almost right away, Anthony was approached by a member of the church, Nathan Hale, to take part in prison ministry with him. Hale serves on staff at Prison Fellowship as a prison ministry manager. Anthony recalled that Hale's invitation came a week after Pastor Michael Maiden’s prayer over him during a church service.
“Pastor Maiden prophesied over me and said, ‘You’ve been in some dark places, and God’s pulled you out, and you’re going to be blessing and praying over tens of thousands of men and women behind bars and in chains.’”
When the pastor invited Anthony and Monica to minister at a prison, they both struggled with this request. Incarceration had had a painful impact on both of their childhoods.
Monica decided not to go on that first visit, but Anthony agreed and was surprised at how much God blessed his obedience to minister to the incarcerated. The church service he attended in prison was not the unpleasant experience he had been expecting.
“The first time being there was so intense,” he says. “But that was the best church service I ever had.”
Seeing how encouraged Anthony was, Monica agreed to accompany him and Nathan for their next visit. “Lord, am I supposed to go in here?” she prayed. “I need it to be clear as day that You want me to go.”
She felt the Lord respond, saying, “You were running from your family for so many years. But I’ve equipped you and strengthened you to go back and fight to break those generational curses.”
Monica was surprised to discover that she was even more blessed than the incarcerated people they were ministering to. She wept when God revealed His heart for them to her.
“God showed me their hearts, that they were [in a way] children that were broken and hurt,” Monica says.
Anthony was surprised at how much God blessed his obedience to minister to the incarcerated.
VISIONS OF SERVICE
Monica and Anthony began devoting more of their time and talents to prison ministry, ministering to the homeless, sharing their testimonies, and encouraging those they visited. But God had more in store for them.
Monica sensed God leading them to serve people using a food truck. This made little sense to them at first, as they knew nothing about food trucks.
“[We] didn’t know how to get it permitted, didn’t know anything. We were two kids from the housing project that God gave us this big vision,” Anthony recalls.
But they stepped out in faith, bought a food truck, and began ministering to people in need.
Monica’s heart for the food truck was to feed kids at skate parks and inside housing projects, to have greater visibility to those in their community. She and Anthony wanted people in their neighborhood to know, when they saw their truck coming up the street with its unique artwork and Jesus’ arms wide open, that a hot meal and living hope was headed their way.
“It wasn’t an inspiration of wanting to be a cook or anything,” Anthony explains. “It was funny because we went to go purchase the truck, and some guy comes out and says, ‘Hey, what are you guys going to be cooking in this food truck?’ Monica poked her head out of the window and says, ‘Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.’ I told him, ‘Exactly, beans, rice, and Jesus Christ. Whatever He provides.’”
Monica and Anthony learned the ins and outs of running a food truck and even quit their well-paying jobs to pursue the vision they sensed from God. They handed out tacos in penitentiaries and marginalized areas and even served ice cream to 3,500 incarcerated women.
“We’ve blessed over 15,000 people with this food truck in the past year,” Anthony says.
TAKING THE LEAP
As the number of people they served grew, Anthony and Monica felt led to start a nonprofit serving those in need. They called it Plus One.
“Our organization is called Plus One because, out of thousands of kids, I was blessed to be able to be in that [shelter],” Monica says. “We let people know about the resources that are out there. They don’t know unless someone’s there motivating them and telling them about it, walking through life with them.”
Plus One partners with other organizations offering therapy, counseling, and mentorship. They also work with an Angel Tree® camp to get the kids into camps.
“It’s Jesus with His hands out; the Lord is our Plus One,” she says. “He’s the one that's always going to be there uplifting us, giving us what we need.”
Through Nathan, the couple has gone into prisons to encourage incarcerated parents to sign up their children for Angel Tree. Remembering the prophetic word spoken over him, Anthony has been able to perform his music, ministering to 10,000 incarcerated men and women.
“I just believe there’s going to be a lot of good reconciliation between [parents] and the kids,” Anthony says.
RELATIONSHIP GOALS
Nothing would give Anthony and Monica more joy than to bring about reconciliation between the children they serve and their parents whom they have ministered to in the prisons. Not every incarcerated parent should have ongoing contact with their children, and Angel Tree works to screen out those parents who aren’t legally permitted to make contact, but for many, reconciliation can bring healing to both the child and the parent.
“God ultimately had a plan with our ministry to go back and reach those children,” Anthony says. “It’s been a blessing and an honor because now, when we go in there with Prison Fellowship, we’re able to talk to the [incarcerated parents] about what we are doing for the children in their communities.”
Their marriage is a testament to God’s faithfulness.
“[We are] two people who’ve been through so much and made it through,” Anthony recalls. “Last weekend, when we were in prison, this girl [told us], ‘I just love seeing you two pray over people. It’s just so beautiful that it gives me hope that I can have a good relationship.’”
For each of them, there is the realization that despite the ups and downs of marriage, they have been brought together on purpose, for a purpose.
“I always say, what an honor that the Lord chose us out of millions and billions of people,” Monica adds. “I’m so honored.”
“I always say, what an honor that the Lord chose us out of millions and billions of people. I’m so honored.”
—Monica