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Hope echoed through his prison cell walls
Even at our lowest point, God can break through.
By Doug Bender
When George looks out at the ocean near his home in California, he often takes a moment to breathe deeply and thank God. For so long, George’s life was defined by chaos, addiction, and a tragedy that landed him behind bars for 17 years.
“My life was a train wreck,” George says. “I was a horrible person—selfish and manipulative. I was a bad husband, bad father, and bad son. All the people that I hurt, that weighed on me.”
When George’s choices eventually led to someone losing their life, he had to confront the person he’d become. His time behind bars became an opportunity to learn a new way of thinking and a new way of living.
A childhood of faith, followed by rebellion
George grew up in a Christan home. He went to church, played drums on the worship team, and looked the part of a Christian. But as a Black kid in a mostly white community, George often felt out of place growing up. Entering adulthood, he felt his heart grow cold toward God.
“I made compromises,” George admits. “I knew who God was, but I was drawn away by my own evil desires.”
George married in his early 20s and then had two children, both girls. Around his family, he tried to act like a Christian. He went to church, played in the worship band, and occasionally even picked up his Bible. But when he went out with friends, his behavior changed. He partied, began smoking marijuana, and even cheated on his wife. Though he loved his daughters, he also struggled to be the father they needed.
“And I was angry, too,” George says. “I experienced a lot of racism. I didn’t know how to process why people didn’t like me just because of the way I looked. I wanted to fit in. I began doing things that was compromising what I really knew in my heart was wrong.”
“My conscience became seared,” he says. “I seared it with a hot iron.”
Nobody really knew the full truth about George’s double life. His mother suspected something was off. She didn’t know he was cheating on his wife or smoking marijuana. But she could sense that he was hiding behind a mask.
“She’d ask, ‘Are you reading your Bible?’” George remembers. “I’d roll my eyes, but deep down I knew I was disappointing my mom.”
The crash that changed everything
The weeks leading up to George’s arrest were a blur of chaos and despair. His business had failed. His truck was repossessed. His license was suspended. He was living with another woman and arguing with his estranged wife about child support.
“My life was imploding,” George says. “And I thought, ‘What’s the best way to fix all that chaos? Well, let’s smoke more marijuana and escape the pain.’”
George didn’t know it at the time, but looking back, he can see he was having a nervous breakdown. He wasn’t sleeping. His mind started to break away from reality.
“My mom said I wasn’t making sense,” George says, recalling a conversation at his parents’ house the night before the tragedy. “The things I was saying—she told my dad, ‘Get his keys. Something’s wrong. Something’s not right here.’”
His mother’s worries proved valid. The next morning, George found himself behind the wheel of his car. He struck a woman while she was walking. She died instantly.
George didn’t know it at the time, but looking back, he can see he was having a nervous breakdown.
Finding hope inside a padded cell
In that moment, George understood that he had taken a life. He felt the weight of this reality, and the weight broke him.
George says, “I was just like, ‘Someone needs to kill me because I’m just horrible. I can’t live like this.’”
The police came. George begged them
to kill him. They put him in a padded cell, restraining him with what George calls a “padded poncho” so he couldn’t harm himself. Then after three days, he heard something that changed him.
“I heard someone reading Scripture,” he recalls. “Instantly, my mind cleared. I came to my senses.”
He cried out, “Lord, I’ve turned my back on You. I’ve shamed You. I’ve misrepresented You. Is there any hope for me?”
George soon found a Bible and began reading it. He discovered grace in the words of Scripture. He was later sentenced to 30 years to life for DUI manslaughter.
His faith grew during his time in prison. He decided to make his time behind bars count for something.
He joined the church inside and even began helping with the worship team—just as he had done growing up.
During a Prison Fellowship® Hope Event, he was invited to share a song he had written about Mary visiting Christ’s tomb.“I’d written other songs, but some songs the Lord just gives you,” George says. “The Lord gave me these lyrics.”
When the day came to play, he prayed he could just get through it without crying or making a mistake. The people organizing the Hope Event® told him they'd be recording his performance.
“Lord, just help me play this song and not screw it up,” George recalls praying. “If my mom gets a chance to see this, I don’t want to screw it up.”
A few weeks later, he called home. His mother answered the phone and immediately broke into tears. She had seen the video of her son playing his worship song.
“God’s favor showed up in ways I couldn’t explain,” he says.
George soon found a Bible and discovered grace in the words of Scripture.
Being a father while in prison
One of the big blessings George experienced during his time in prison came through Prison Fellowship Angel Tree®. He remembers the despair he felt before going to prison when he could barely afford to buy his kids Christmas presents. He wanted to be a better father then, but he had made so many wrong choices in his life that he couldn’t see a way forward. Angel Tree became a source of hope for him.
“I couldn't sign up fast enough,” George says. “To think someone would buy my kids gifts for me—it made me feel like a father again.”
When his daughters received their gifts from local church volunteers, they were thrilled.
“My youngest got a basketball and a skateboard,” George remembers. “My other daughter got makeup and dresses. They’d call me and say, ‘Thanks, Dad!’ It gave me hope.”
That hope sustained him. Even behind bars, he was able to begin rebuilding his relationship with his children.
Though his marriage to his girls’ mother had ended in divorce, his ex-wife allowed George to stay involved in their kids’ lives. He has always been grateful for that.
His relationship with his daughters continued to grow when he left prison. George was released early after serving 17 years when changes to California laws reduced his sentence. In 2021, he walked out a free man. One of the first things that George did when he left prison was play basketball with his youngest daughter. He was staying at a halfway house at the time.
“She said, ‘Oh, wow, Dad! You can play!’” George remembers of his daughter’s surprised reaction. “It was the best feeling in the world, playing ball with her. It was so fun.”
“To think someone would buy my kids gifts for me—it made me feel like a father again.”
A second chance at life
Immediately after leaving prison, he began working at a surf shop. George had always loved surfing. The shop was owned by a dear friend of his who had stuck by George throughout his journey in prison. He was even there the first time George was able to get back out into the ocean on his surfboard. Having this kind of support when he left prison made a big difference in George’s life.
More recently, George also started a junk-hauling business. Someone from his church hires his company on a regular basis. He says that it’s dirty work, but it’s helping him to live clean. He also serves in his church and volunteers with Prison Fellowship inside the same prison he once called home.
“The first time I walked back into that prison—wearing a Prison Fellowship shirt—I ran into my old cellmate,” George says. “We hugged and cried.”
George has also remarried and lives near the ocean, where he gets to surf on his days off.
When he looks back on his journey, he says God has been his friend.
“Not just any friend,” George says, “He’s the ultimate friend. Even when I turned my back on Him, He never left me. He disciplined me, but He loved me through it all.”
As he shares his story at Hope Events and in churches, George prays everyone he meets finds the same love and hope that he has found in Jesus.
“Even when I turned my back on [God], He never left me.
He disciplined me, but He loved me through it all.”


