Coping with the incarceration of a loved one can be overwhelming. Where do you turn for help? These resources will help you know what to expect after someone you care about has been arrested, and how to cope before, during, and after their sentence.
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RAISING CHILDREN WITH A PARENT IN PRISON
As a caregiver, you know the traumatic and emotional impact on the rest of the family when a parent goes to prison. Not only is it difficult for the children, it can also be overwhelming for those of you left to care for the children.
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Looking for guidance on speaking to children about incarceration? Join us for “Hard Conversations: How To Talk to Children About an Incarcerated Loved One.” In this free webinar, Dr. Lucy Willis provides age-appropriate, practical suggestions for navigating this important topic with care and confidence.
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- 10 INSPIRING BIBLE VERSES FOR INCARCERATED WOMEN Here are 10 Bible verses to pray over and share with our mothers, wives, daughters, and sisters behind bars.
- 10 UPLIFTING BIBLE VERSES FOR INCARCERATED MEN Just as essential to those behind bars is spiritual inspiration, providing them with a source of comfort, guidance, and even joy in the midst of difficult times.
- Why Do Some People Go to Prison? Explaining Prison to Children We hope this article will help you to start a dialogue with the children in your life about incarceration and the emotions and challenges that may arise.
KEY TERMS TO KNOW ABOUT THE PRISON SYSTEM
Here are some of the most commonly asked questions and answers about terms used in the prison system.
A DIFFERENT WAY OF THINKING: MENTAL HEALTH AND INCARCERATION
Mental health is something people used to avoid discussing, but awareness is on the rise—which is a good thing. Both incarcerated people and their families often deal with mental health struggles. Now, Maria helps them embrace a different way of thinking.
7 WAYS TO PRAY FOR A LOVED ONE IN PRISON
Here are seven ways to start praying for your loved one in prison, and watch God move in their lives—and in yours.
HOW TO CONTACT PRISONERS
Three ways to maintain contact with incarcerated family and loved ones.
HOW TO PREPARE FOR A PRISON VISIT
Visiting a family member in prison presents its own bundle of challenges. Just knowing what to expect can reduce stress. Being prepared can raise the bar for positive visitation experiences, possibly snowballing into more visits, and hopefully, improved relationships.
HOW TO MAINTAIN A MARRIAGE DURING INCARCERATION
If you are facing a prison sentence, or if your spouse is incarcerated, and you are still married, you’ve got an uphill battle to fight.
BOOKS FOR FAMILIES
- Doing Time Together: Love and family in the shadow of the Prison by Megan Comfort
By quadrupling the number of people behind bars in two decades, the United States has become the world leader in incarceration. Much has been written on the men who make up the vast majority of the nation’s two million inmates. But what of the women they leave behind? Doing Time Together vividly details the ways that prisons shape and infiltrate the lives of women with husbands, fiancés, and boyfriends on the inside.
- Family Arrested: How to Survive the Incarceration of a Loved One by Ann Edenfield
The author's life was devastated when her husband was arrested for a federal tax crime and given a fifteen-year sentence. During the six years he served, she learned about the prison system, which she tells about in this book. Edenfield reads the painful events of those years in a factual way, distancing herself from the emotional pain of being left to raise four young children on little income. This stoicism requires listeners to engage their imaginations to envision what her life must have been like.
- Help! My Loved One Is in Prison by Louis N. Jones
There are over 2 million American citizens incarcerated in this country. Many of those people have family members or other loved ones on the outside. All of them have been adversely affected by the incarceration of the loved ones to various degrees. And those loved ones can be a tremendous help and resource for the ex-offender when he/she finally gets out of prison. This book is for anyone who is affected by the imprisonment, past or present, of a loved one and wants to do something to help.
- How to Love and Inspire Your Man After Prison by Michael B. Jackson
The hundreds of thousands of wives and partners of current, former, and future inmates; families, friends and loved ones of current, former, and future inmates; criminal justice professionals; and anyone interested in the corrections system and/or the betterment of society… all will find this book indispensable. How to Love and Inspire Your Man After Prison is a guide for women looking to help men in and after prison. It is a potentially life-changing or life-saving manual with powerful insights, practical advice and energizing inspiration.
- Incarcerated but Free: How to Find Freedom from Your Mental Prison by Monique Pettaway-Ray
Six months after their marriage, Monique Pettaway-Ray's her husband was convicted for murder and sentenced to life in prison without parole. A vital part of her life was ripped from her-and Monique didn't know how to cope. Deeply honest and heartfelt, Incarcerated but Free shares how Monique broke the bars of her mental prison, forged an incredible faith in the Lord, and embarked on a path to help families of incarcerated individuals find hope and healing.
- Learning to Sing in a Strange Land by Wesley Stevens
Prison is a strange land, a land of deep heartache and sadness. Over two million people are serving prison time in America. Millions more are carrying the mark of prison as those who were formerly incarcerated, including large numbers of men and women who have been released on parole. In the midst of such human misery, when “loosened tongues” are freed to sing of God's redemptive love, grief is diminished and the prison loses its power.
- Letters to an Incarcerated Brother by Hill Harper
Harper set out to address the specific needs of inmates. Harper's powerful message from the heart provides advice and inspiration in the face of despair along with encouraging words for restoring a sense of self-worth. Uplifting and insightful, Letters to an Incarcerated Brother provides the hope and inspiration inmates and their families need.
- Sentenced, Now What? by Lennie Spitale
This second booklet in the Institute for Prison Ministries Library by Lennie Spitale is designed to help individuals and families with the second phase of the incarceration journey-sentencing and what follows. It is designed to help family and friends protect and build the relationships they have with their loved ones in prison.
- When You Have to Go to Prison by Margaret R Kohut
This book was written to help anyone who is preparing to go to prison with the possibilities, expectations, and realities of their situation from the strain it will put on a marriage, to the conversations you will need to have with your children. After interviewing more than 100 past and present inmates along with their families, this book provides a complete perspective into how people respond to the prospect and reality of incarceration, and what you can do to prepare for those realities.
- 10 UPLIFTING BIBLE VERSES FOR INCARCERATED MEN
Just as essential to those behind bars is spiritual inspiration, providing them with a source of comfort, guidance, and even joy in the midst of difficult times. - ARRESTED What to Do When Your Loved One’s in Jail by Wes Denham
Arrested is the only guide to supporting family members facing criminal charges. It explains how to make decisions that are in the best interests of the entire family—not just the defendant—and provides checklists of what things to do, and in what order. Form letters called "jail mail" are included to help readers quickly send important information to inmates. - Before Amen: The Power of a Simple Prayer by Max Lucado
Author Max Lucado joins readers on a journey to the very heart of biblical prayer, offering hope for doubts and confidence even for prayer wimps. Distilling prayers in the Bible down to one pocket-sized prayer, Max reminds readers that prayer is not a privilege for the pious nor the art of a chosen few. Prayer is simply a heartfelt conversation between God and his child. Let the conversation begin. - Beyond Loneliness: The Gift of God's Friendship by Trevor Hudson
Loneliness touches everyone, whether they are young or old, rich or poor. It can be one of the most painful experiences of life. There is a friend-shaped hole in all of our lives, Trevor Hudson writes. People long for relationship with others, but what may surprise them is that God actually longs to be friends with them. Having a close friendship with God is the only thing that will ultimately bring joy and happiness and ease the ache of loneliness. - Chicken Soup for the Soul: Finding my Faith by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Susan M. Heim
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Finding My Faith is filled with inspiring stories about the number of ways people discover, or rediscover, their faith—whether it's Christian or Jewish. The inspirational and powerful stories will touch the hearts and souls of readers.
- Chicken Soup for the Unsinkable Soul by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Susan M. Heim
This book emphasizes triumph in the face of overwhelming odds. A timeless testament to the indomitable human spirit, this collection is sure to encourage, support, comfort and, most of all, inspire all readers for years to come.